Remembering Loved Ones On Easter

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"I miss Papa." When he's alive, every Good Friday, we always go to Divine Mercy and do Station of the Cross. Nagbabaon kami ng foods, it's like having picnic after praying, ang dating. My father always make a point na may bonding kami every Holy Week when he's on vacation. Unfortunately, he passed away two (2) years ago. And, we never had the time to do this because of our work schedule, etc.

I am hoping that next year we may be able to do this, and to the coming years. As Mama said, this is one of my father's legacy.

You may find below the pictures when we went to Divine Mercy in Bulacan when Papa was still alive:

Papa and Mama

The Gang (from left to right): Tatay Leon, Mama, Papi, Papa, Tito Lads (ooops! soon-to-be Daddy Lads), Your Truly (Mimi), Kikay, and Negra
In front: Tita Jacq, Ate One, and Ate Two


Tsibugan Time!!!

Of course, my moment! :D

"Station of the Cross"

"Thirst Quencher"

Of course, we had fun while walking in a very hot and sticky afternoon. Happy Easter!

The Time Has Arrived

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Source: Word of Wisdom

Childhood

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Antoinelle Doesn't Want to Study

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When Ate Two and I are about to do her assignment, she said to me, "I don't want to study, Mums."  I said, "Huh!?"

Honestly, I got surprised and I really don't know what to say and react. I never heard that from Ate One...

Just a little preview, I became a Mum at an early age. And, even if Ate One is now seven (7), it seems that everyday, there's always something for me to learn. 

So, please find below "Ways to Get through to Your Underachieving Child" (it's a long read though, but it's worth it):

Look at What Your Child Likes: Look for things that can be used as rewards for your child. Make a point of observing what your child likes and enjoys now. And don't take his word for it; he'll tell you he doesn't care about anything; that “nothing matters.” But look at his actions—if he watches a lot of TV, plays on the computer, if he likes video games or texting, you know what he likes. Ask yourself: does he like going to the movies? Does he like going fishing? Does he like taking walks? Take an inventory of the things he enjoys and write it all down on a piece of paper. (While I usually recommend that parents sit down with their kids and draw up this list together, in the case of kids who tend to withhold, I don’t think it’s a good idea. Don't ask a child who uses passive aggressive behavior; because he won’t tell you—remember, withholding is his way of maintaining control.) Later, you can use these things as incentives.

Take the Goodies out of His Room: Underachieving kids should not have a lot of goodies in their rooms. Look at it this way: their room is just a place for them to withdraw. If you have a child who holes up in his bedroom, the computer should be in the living area—and if he's going to use it, he should be out there with other people. He also shouldn’t have a TV or video games in his room, and if he’s not performing, don’t let him have his cell phone, either.

It’s important to realize that there's a difference between being motivated to do nothing and being completely withdrawn. A child who won’t attend to his work or do his chores is different from someone who's depressed. If your child won't come out of his room, doesn’t seem to care no matter what you take away, and is often isolated and withdrawn, you have to take that seriously and seek professional help.

Make Sure everything is Earned Each Day: You have to hold unmotivated kids accountable. Make sure everything is earned. Life for these guys should be one day at a time. They should have to earn video games every day. And how do they earn them? By doing their homework and chores. They earn their cell phone today and then start over tomorrow. Let me be clear: for these kids, Mom should hold the phone.
Have Conversations about What Your Child Wants: When times are good, you should talk to your child about what he would like to have some day. Try to sneak in different ideas to get your child to think about how he will achieve what he wants in life. Sit down with your child and say “So what kind of car would you like to have? Do you like Jeeps?” Try to get him to talk about what he'd like. Because later on you can say, “Look, I care about you and I want you to get that Jeep—and you're not going to get it by not doing your homework."

As a parent, talking this way to your child from pre-adolescence. You can say things like, “Just think, some day you're going to have your own place. What kind of place would you like?” That's the type of thing you use to motivate adolescents because that's what is real to them: they want to get an apartment, they want to have a girlfriend or boyfriend, they want to get a car. So have conversations about what it takes to attain those things. And don’t forget, it’s a mistake to give your teen or pre-teen lectures when you want them to do something—instead, make them see that completing their responsibilities is in their best interests, because it leads to the life they’d like to have in the future.

Don’t Shout, Argue, Beg or Plead: Iif you’re shouting, you're just showing your frustration—and letting your child know that he’s in control. Here’s the truth: when people start shouting, it means they've run out of solutions. With kids who are underperforming, I think you have to be very cool. Arguing, pleading, and trying to get your teen to talk about how they feel is not very effective when they’re using withholding as a relationship strategy.

You can try almost anything within reason for five minutes. So you can negotiate, you can reason, you can ask your child about their feelings. It’s fine to say, “Is something wrong?” Just be aware that a chronic withholder will be motivated not to answer you.

“It Matters to Me.” I think parents have to be very clear and tell their children that what they do matters to them. Personalize it by saying, “It matters to me. I care about you. I want you to do well. I can't make you do it and I won't force you. But it matters to me and I love you.”
By the way, when I tell parents to personalize it by saying “It matters to me,” that doesn’t mean you should take it personally. Taking something personally means believing that your child’s inappropriate behavior is directed at you. It’s not—in reality, it’s their overall strategy to deal with the stresses of life. The concept of “It Matters to Me” helps because relationships can be motivating, but your child is his own person. It's no reflection on you if he doesn't want to perform. You just have to set up the scenario and enhance the probability that he's going to do what he needs to do. But don't take it personally, as if somehow you have to make him do it. The truth is, you can't.

Stop Doing Your Child’s Tasks for Him: “Learned helplessness” is when people learn that if they don’t do something, someone will step in and do it for them—and it’s a very destructive pattern. When kids and teens use this shortcut, they don't learn independence. In fact, in families where this occurs, many times you'll find that the kids weren’t allowed to be independent very much. Perhaps they had to do things a certain way and all the choices were made for them. Eventually, they gave up; they surrendered.
Regardless of why your child might have an attitude of learned helplessness, as a parent, it’s important to stop doing things that he needs to do for himself. Don’t do his homework—let him do it. You can be available for help if necessary, but don’t take on his tasks. I believe one of the most important things an adolescent has to learn is independence, and if you take on his responsibilities, you’re robbing him of this chance to develop.

Learn How to Be a Coach: Let’s face it: it's often sports coaches who get the most out of our kids. It’s their job to help kids want to improve their skills. So the coach learns a little bit about each of his players. A good coach is not constantly saying, “You’re great, you’re the best, you’re a superstar!” Rather, they always keep their athletes looking forward by complimenting them on the specifics of their progress: “Nice layup, Josh. You positioned your hands better that time. Keep it up.” I think parents need to learn more about the Coaching parenting style. Always keep your child looking forward. Comment on his or her progress instead of telling them how great they are when they haven’t put forth much of an effort. Kids see through flattery and false praise just like adults do—and it usually backfires.

Set Deadlines and Use Structure: Tell your child clearly when to do chores and schoolwork—and when you want them done by. I think it's important to schedule these kids, to give them structure. “Do your chores from 3 p.m. to 4 p.m., and then you'll have free time until dinner. And during free time, you can do whatever you want to do.” There are other ways to motivate your child by saying, “If you can accomplish this in X amount of time, we'll go to your cousin’s house on Saturday” or “I’ll take you to the boat show this weekend.” Remember, not everything that your child likes to do costs money, so add those activities into the equation.

I think it’s important for parents to realize that being an underachiever gives your child a sense of control and power, because then he doesn't have to worry about the anxiety of failure or meeting challenging responsibilities. He doesn't have to compete with other kids. He doesn't have to deal with people's expectations. In fact, a large part of underachieving has to do with managing other people's expectations. That’s because once you start to achieve, people expect more of you. Kids feel this quite powerfully and they don't have much defense against it. So you'll often see that when people start expecting more of these kids, they fall apart.

Ate 1 and 2 always have Excuses

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Ate One and Two always have a reason for why they did (or didn't do) something. Like, when I asked, "Bakit ngayon lang kayo umuwi? Di ba sabi ko until 5 pm lang kayo". Ate One will answer with, "Sabi kasi ni Tita Jacq, mamaya na lang daw kami uwi eh." And followed by Ate Two, "Saka ipapaalam nya daw kami eh (which was happened)".


Sounds familiar?


Here’s a 3-step process that shows how we (parents) can do this:


1. Name it.  In order to best handle this behavior, it’s going to be most effective if you directly state what it is that your child is doing.  Here's a simple statement for parents to use: “It sounds like you’re blaming _______ for the fact that you ________.”  For example, say your son goes on video games everyday after school instead of doing homework.  You set up a homework structure with him where he can earn video game time after his homework is complete, and he still keeps going on to play video games with his friends instead of doing his homework, saying something like, “Well, I always play with Tommy, and he can’t play later, and if I wait until I’m done with my homework, I’m not going to have anyone to play with.” Instead of lecturing him for the 100th time about the importance of doing well in school, try saying: “It sounds like you’re blaming Tommy for you choosing not to follow the rule around homework.”




2. Restate the rule or the expectation.  Again, you’re going to be the most effective if you do not give your child a lecture; rather, simply state what your house rule is around the behavior you are seeing.  Using the above example, you might say, “The rule is, you get to play video games after your homework is done.”



3. Problem solve with your child about next time.  When everyone is calm, having a problem-solving conversation with your child about what he or she will do differently to follow the rule next time.  Remember, it’s more effective to focus on how your child is going to take responsibility rather than argue about whose fault it is, or isn’t.  The parent in this example might say “Blaming others isn’t going to fix this for you.  What are you going to do differently tomorrow to make sure you are following the rules around video games and homework?”

Keep in mind, making excuses just means that our child is human, not that he’s a bad kid or that she’s never going to be able to be responsible.  Using these tips can help develop that sense of accountability for his or her actions.

Source: Empowering Parents

Globe now offers the new BlackBerry Z10

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Globe Telecom recently launched the new BlackBerry Z10 and scored exclusivity to offer the BlackBerry Z10 LTE version in the country under its fully-customizable unlimited surfing plans bundled with unlimited browsing, consumable amount for calls and texts, and freebies.

Subscribers can get the BlackBerry Z10 for free at Globe Unli Surf Plan 1799 over a 30-month contract. With Globe Unli Surf Plan 1799, subscribers get unlimited and worry-free mobile surfing, P800 monthly consumable amount for calls and texts, and three call and text freebies.

For consumers who opt for a shorter lock-up period, they can avail themselves of the BlackBerry Z10 for free for as low as P1,999 monthly at Globe Unli Surf Plan 1799 with P200 monthly cash-out over a 24-month contract.

The new BlackBerry Z10 is the first BlackBerry smartphone to launch with the redesigned, re-engineered and re-invented BlackBerry 10 platform, giving customers a powerful and unique new mobile computing experience.

Kris Aquino Leaves for Europe with Sons Josh and Bimby

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The TV host-actress is set to fulfill her commitments to her home network despite announcing that she will resign from her shows.

Kris Aquino has left for Paris, France with her sons Josh and Bimby on March 23 for a two-week vacation after the Makati Regional Trial Court junked the hold departure order that her ex-husband James Yap tried to file against her and Bimby.

In a report aired on the March 22 episode of GMA-7’s 24 Oras Weekend, the embattled TV host-actress thanked her supporters who stood by her side throughout her dispute with James.

“Sa lahat po sa inyo na ipinagtanggol ako at ipinagtanggol ang pamilya ko at mga anak ko, for the rest of my life, tatanawin ko yun na utang na loob,” she was quoted as saying in an article on PEP.ph. “Can I just honestly say that, wala naman talagang madali sa buhay, pero siguro lahat kailangang kakayanin talaga. Lahat mapagdadaanan kung ramdam mo yung pagmamahal sa ‘yo, nung mga mahahalaga (To all of you who defended me, my family, and my children, I will be grateful to you for the rest of my life. Can I just honestly say that, while nothing in life is really easy, we just have to find the strength to carry on. We can deal with anything if we can feel that we are loved by the people who are important to us.).”

Kris is also required to finish all her shows on her home network, ABS-CBN, despite announcing her resignation on the March 21 episode of TV Patrol. She currently appears in three programs: her daily morning show Kris TV, the primetime series Kailangan Ko’y Ikaw, and the weekly talent search Pilipinas Got Talent.

In a statement given to PEP.ph by ABS-CBN Integrated Corporate Communications Head Bong Osorio, the network said that Kris is scheduled to meet with the station’s executives after her vacation to discuss her obligations to her shows.

“Upon her return, Kris will fulfill her commitment to her soap Kailangan Ko'y Ikaw, which is nearing its end,” the statement read. "She will also have to stay as a judge in Pilipinas Got Talent till its end in June. Being a foreign franchise, there are commitments we have to fulfill and rules we need to abide by.”

I thought James filed a Hold Departure Order, what happened?

Source: Female Network

Moving On

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My Seventh Honorable

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Meet my second. She never studies and only wants to play whole day! This is why I am surprised that she got seventh honorable mention. 

Ate 2


Ate 2 with Dad
And, of course...

Ate 2 with Mom

"Congrats, Ate 2. Mom and Dad are so proud of you!"

Mi Familia

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My Family...my life...